The undies above are laid out to form our version of a transgender pride flag. More below!
Have you ever been so scared to do something that you just... didn't?
Even though that inaction is action in itself? And making no decision is the same as making a decision. At least until you actually make the decision...
Sheepishly, I admit that I've been frozen by the same stinky fear monster for 4 years now.
But today, with you as my witness, I stare down my fear monster. And do a Banana Cheer in its face.
This week, with all the fanfare we can muster (giveaways, and a game of "Choose Your Own [Undies] Adventure" to boot!), I am thrilled to announce that two new styles of undies have entered the La Vie en Orange shop, both geared toward better serving the transgender members of our LVEO family.
This launch has been a long time coming.
For four years I've been making undies for trans folks, but I haven't really been telling anyone.
Which is a) not a great way to sell anything (apparently, that's what businesses do), and b) it's also just completely absurd. I make my living making the best undies I can, with hopes of serving as many people as possible. My emphasis has always been on helping people perfect their fit so they can forget about their undies the moment they put them on. (I even wrote a manifesto about it in 2011 that still holds true today. With the addition of more pronouns :)).
So of course, if there's a specific need some trans folks have and I can do it, I'm going to do it. And I have been, for four-fifths of our life in business (you might recall we celebrated our 5th birthday earlier this year). Just really quietly.
Someone wondered at a recent trans & ally support group I attended whether my silence was out of shame of being associated with the trans community. And because I've been doing a lot of thinking about this, I'm fairly certain that it's not. I truly believe that it has been more about my own limiting beliefs of "How will I ever be worthy?" and "Who am I to try to serve this community?"
But no more! Something about my birthday last month (They make me reflective. And not exactly in the shiny, sparkly way, even though that would be the best. Do you get reflective too?) and all the Pride Festivals we rocked last month have turned the tides.
Who am I to not use my gifts to try to serve this community? That's obviously the better question. :)
Even though I'm terrified of offending the folks I most want to serve.
Even though I am certain that at some point I will offend someone I am trying to serve, or I will rub someone the wrong way by saying something stupid or ignorant, or worse, I will shut down someone I could serve by saying something stupid or ignorant. I can only beg for patience and understanding in advance. And forgiveness when it happens.
The tides have turned even though I'm terrified of bringing a magnifying glass to my ally-ship and exposing my ignorance. Or spreading misinformation or outdated information to folks who aren't a part of the transgender community.
Even though I'm worried I'll be seen as yet another rude (best case) or dangerous (worst case) person worrying about trans folks' genitalia, (which we all know is completely irrelevant when talking about gender). Too many people think too much about what's going on in trans people's pants, and I don't want to be seen as adding to that ugly brouhaha.
And especially because I'm terrified that it could take off and I won't be ready.
Four years of mulling over all these things. Going back and forth. The decision of indecision.
Today I'm embracing the cliche, "Better late than never."
Today I'm thrilled to announce one more way our business strives to serve as many people as possible and to help even more folks forget about their undies from the moment they put them on. Because what the world truly does need is more people making it their oyster.
And now, because I'm a huge nerd, a game.
Do you remember those "Choose Your Own Adventure" books from when you were a kid? I loved them. I loved being in charge of the story, and I loved thinking about how the author must have created each tale.
So, just like how there's no one way to be trans (In or out? Hormone treatments or not? Yes surgery or no? "Passing," trying to "pass," or don't want to "pass"? and on and on), today, there is no single way to read this post.